Rolling thread of articles from THE FRISKY reposted on CNN.com

This thread should probably be subtitled "Essays That Make Me Into A Sexist Neanderthal".

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/worklife/10/06/tf.secret.office.affair/index.html?iref=mpstoryview

Can someone explain to me how this is an example of a bad office affair and not an example of why people should talk to each other before they sleep with each other?

why did the frisky advice things change to celeb based links by the end of the article?

It is an example of how I should not read any more articles written by one specific person.

why did the frisky advice things change to celeb based links by the end of the article?

hahaha I didn't even notice that, even they embedded content links got bored and were rolling their eyes by the end of this

I am glad to hear that the author has found the best friend and lover that she has always deserved and that she is going to marry.

women are fricken nuts

In her defense, she is a little cute, I guess.

I just... even with what you would think of as regular power dynamics in a teacher/student relationship, this doesn't really match up because their relationship started when they were both working professionals and only turned into an "office affair"* when she got a job in another dept. at his company off of her own contacts. I am really not seeing how he used her, particularly since it seems like they were too busy fucking for either one of them to talk about the status of their relationship.

* Usually for a relationship to be an affair, doesn't one of the people need to already be in a relationship? It seems like they were both single when this started, although the status of HER relationship is a little unclear...?

Ooooh boy. I dated someone in my field who was successful and important and 10 years older than me. We were actually like DATING, it wasn't an office secret and we didn't work together. But I got rly messed up by how much I idolized him for being successful & important & a decade ahead of me in "getting ahead". Total disaster.

Can you now can see what he did to you was wrong?

Except without the extra "can", and maybe with a "that" in there somewhere?

Specifically? Fuck yeah, that guy was a dick. But re that article, I can see how there's more to it than "bad communication, should have gotten a clue".

I can't refute that because there's nothing in my life experience that would help me understand the leap between the beginning of their relationship and the end of it, so I have nothing concrete to argue with other than "wtf why didn't they talk about the possibility of getting serious before they had sex if she liked him so much".

Mostly what I got was that he should have let her know that he was seeing other people (and falling in love with them) prior to her big confession. But we're only getting one side of the story, and a pretty superficial side at that. And I don't get how the age/power difference really indicts him -- given the situation and how long they seem to have taken getting there.

Oh well I also know about being painfully naive, but that wasn't my point. Just that it was suuuuper easy to elevate him to ALL KINDS of perfection in my mind b/c of his smarts and high standing at something that I really looked up to to begin with. Of course you can idealize absolutely anyone.

Adoring young women, for instance. Especially if they're a little cute.

"mentoring"
i am so sure

flirting more like. he's a creep.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/10/14/tf.dating.bisexual.woman/index.html?iref=mpstoryview

so this is getting posted not so much because of the article but because of the embedded links, which really made me roffle