Lose One Neurosis

your fairy godmother/a genie/some dispenser of magical favors appears and tells you "if you are troubled by neuroses, I can relieve you of exactly one; you will never be troubled by it again." a few minutes later, what are you free of forever?

can throw in addictions etc. and rephrase "neuroses" as "traits" where appropriate/preferred

thought this some kind of "destroy only one" ILM thread at first

but to actually answer this: the nagging, unfounded sense that i just did something that pissed someone off and they're not telling me about it

oh man I have that one

but I think for me it's gotta be my It's Probably Permanent problem i.e. anything goes wrong with me, anything, I immediately become convinced that the problem is forever and I am going to have to learn to live with it forever...this is a fucking exhausting tic to have

"I wonder what other problems this is going to lead to down the line? given that I'm always going to have this, always"

gah man I tell you it's like Dan Quayle said, what a terrible thing it is to lose one's mind, or not to have a mind, how very wasteful that is

i think mine stems from a specific incident where precisely that happened, and the fallout from it was kinda devastating. to this day i occasionally have dreams that my friends are all angry at me for some reason i'm never sure of.

easy - i'd like to be able to text or call someone and not have to worry that they suddenly hate me or have lost interest if it's not returned in ten minutes

for me, second guessing what (negative) things people will think about me/my abilities/my looks/etc.

Wd like to be able to get things done instead of worrying so much about not knowing where to start that I don't, ever, and then make myself too sick with worry to think straight when deadlines approach

sort of fear this and a few other things may only be a symptom of a larger and more nebulous problem, which would probably be too huge to qualify for this thread, but damn, in that case I'd settle for just working out what it is

goodbye to the uncontrollable twitches i get when I'm hungover wd be groovy

(xxp) i mean, telling someone "i know you think _____ about me" really makes them look like an asshole even if you're just trying to be self-deprecating.

Wd like to be able to get things done instead of worrying so much about not knowing where to start that I don't, ever, and then make myself too sick with worry to think straight when deadlines approach

story of my life!

i would love to get rid of my neediness/codependency. like, love it a lot.

Wd like to be able to get things done instead of worrying so much about not knowing where to start that I don't, ever, and then make myself too sick with worry to think straight when deadlines approach

hello yes this for me too please

if I get to double-dip or my first request is denied then shedding Fear Of Complete Total No-Way-Back Ruin is also totally OK

The procrastination that feeds my self-loathing. Though the two are probably one big pulsating neurosis of their own so whatever that is, I would like to be rid of that, please thank you very much.

If "depression" counts as a "neurosis" I would get rid of that shit toot sweet.

Pretty sure the fairy/genie wd hook you up

That's basically my #1 life wish that can't really come true in that way.

Once you start taking away neuroses I'm not sure what I have left :(

I'd pick compulsiveness, on the assumption this'd neatly do away with my copulsion re smoking, and painkillers. And worrying. and a dozen other things likely.

Once you start taking away neuroses I'm not sure what I have left :(

man can I just say to be real for a second that I have lived with this fear of "what am I if not the sum of my defects/tics/oddnesses" and it turns out it straightup is not true. never be afraid to let those neuroses go if you see an opening

the certainty that everyone else had mad advantages i didn't growing up in a stable/settled environment that enables them to work & focus towards long term goals when i can't/won't trust in shit to ever work out.

smoking

Depression any fucking day of the week.

^^^

easy: low self esteem

cause for so many problems, then and now

second-guessing myself/obsessing on past mistakes

^^related neuroses count as one

being passive in a friendship/relationship (i.e. never contacting anyone else first, always waiting to be contacted/invited along)

Oooh I'm terrible with that! :/

if the genie won't grant me my first wish, here's another neurosis i'd love to lose: never letting myself get really happy about anything because the fall from feeling nothing to feeling shitty is easier on me than the fall from joy into misery. when i'm in a good mood i'm always looking around for that hailstorm of "other shoes" dropping onto my head.

getting drunk makes the happiness feel more chemical and less personal.